When I was 31, I had it all for about a year: a boyfriend with potential, a glamorous career that let me travel the world, and family on the horizon. But then we broke up, and I felt like I was caught in a whirlpool at the edge of a rushing social current. I was confused, spinning in circles, and surrounded by new questions: what kind of relationship was right if this one was wrong? If I just invested one year in a nowhere relationship, then how much time would I need to invest in a relationship that actually went somewhere? I had known all my life that I wanted to be a mother, but it wasn’t until the break-up that I felt biology toe-tapping her toes.
Let’s face it, the 30s are exhilarating and hard. You’re building your career, you’re trying to balance a lot. Maybe you’re married and have kids. Maybe you’re single and trying to figure that part out. Just know that the mad rush to get it all should not make you crazy. Everything will look different in your 40s. Your friend who you thought was perfect may reveal she’s actually been in an unhappy marriage for ten years.
It’s not always about achieving the status quo. Try not to let peer pressure get you down and always follow your own heart and voice. Whenever you are in your life, if you think kids are in your future, take charge of your fertility. It will help you turn panic into peace.
Consider getting a fertility test, freezing your eggs (many companies cover this on their insurance plans now), and there are also many natural ways to boost your fertility. It’s all preventive medicine.
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